Coping with loss
Expert gives advice for coping with loss through the holidays
By Danielle Paine, Reminder Assistant Editor
EAST LONGMEADOW As the holiday season nears, those grieving the loss of a loved one are likely to find themselves with much more heartache than holiday spirit.
"The holidays are one of the hardest parts of the year for grieving people because it is all so steeped in family and tradition," explained Joanne E. Sullivan, Grief Specialist for Forastiere Smith Funeral Home. "Because of that, they are constantly reminded of their loss and of that person."
Throughout the year, Sullivan hosts several programs of discussion, recent meetings may focus mainly on getting through the holiday season.
She strives to provide practical advice to the many issues grievers will be confronted with. Friends of someone grieving are also encouraged to attend one of her sessions for helpful information about this delicate situation.
"The holidays are very steeped in tradition so you should try to change things up and do them differently this year," Sullivan suggests. "The more you try to keep it the same, the more you realize that person is not there."
Other tips that Sullivan shares include choosing just a few parties without making any solid commitments, and picking up gifts or gift cards wherever you go, instead of going to the mall. She added that a shopping list is also important as memory retention can be difficult during the grieving process.
Even sending out cards for the holiday season can be difficult, according to Sullivan. For example, if someone has lost thier spouse, they may no longer know how to sign thier name. She advised not sending out cards if they don't want to.
"The people who get through the holidays best are the ones who have planned for it," Sullivan said.
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